Don't hate the game, hate the PLAYA! ;)

 Hello Guys and Dolls,

I think you will all agree with me when I say, it is a complicated world out there for all singletons. With all the games people play.... one beguns to wonder, is it easier to just be in a DAMN relationship? ( Not really :P, because it can be fun!)

There is a reason why they say that men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. The ‘differences’ between both genders are vastly innumerable. I mean come on, these ‘differences’ even manage to form the basis of volumes of novels, movies and television shows. I would like to however focus on one particular disparity that was recently brought to my attention. The question of monogamy; are women instinctively monogamous?

Its been established that it is more acceptable for a man to have multiple partners and go around hooking up with whoever he likes, in fact its cool, its awesome, he’s a plaayaaa, all his buddy’s love him, he’s a the main man ! But if a girl ever hazards to do the same…. She’s a raging ho ! Simple!

Scenario;

‘I’m having no strings sex with this guy, Ben! It’s amazing! No commitment, no drama, just a whole bunch of fun! ’, exclaimed Rita

We all looked back at her, some of us smiling and high-fiveing her for her cool and care free approach and some of us secretly questioning, how she could be sure that this is what she wanted.

A few days later, Bettina got dumped! ‘ Eeeewww, I can’t believe I dated that freak for the past year and a half. Uh whatever, now that I’m single I’m going to make the most of it, go out and meet new people and have a good time!’ And so she did.

I on the other hand, having recently converted to Team single, found myself involved with a smooth operator of sorts.  

As time advanced, Rita found that she was tiring of her situation, and told Ben that in fact she did need something more. She was weary of the sneaking around, and fancy free attitude she had acquired. She wasn’t entirely comfortable with the possibility of Ben being with other women and decided to confront him. He in turn was slightly alarmed by her sudden change of heart and although he did not want to terminate their relations, needed some time to think.

Bettina, managed to reestablish herself as the social, crazy, fun, single- girl that she once was. She redeemed her image and let her hair down. Dancing on the table tops at night clubs, burying her pain beneath layers of makeup and tequila. ‘What ? This is the best way, trust me!’ She affirmed, when I questioned her.

I find myself caught between the ideals of Rita and Bettina , while a part of me is concerned that I will enervate of the monotonous game playing and risk taking, another part of me is quite content by dancing the night away, and remaining footloose, fancy free and….. Single !

What happens next…..? Stay tuned!

Yes, it is indeed a complicated world out there for singletons! But hey, enjoy the ride; be crazy, be spontaneous, and stay one step ahead of the game. And oh yeah.. Don’t Get Played ! ;) xo xo